Some people say that bullying is just part of growing up. However, with recent incidents of school violence, we need to take bullying more seriously. Here are some suggestions on stopping the cycle of violence and intimidation from the school bully.
- Pay attention to your child's actions. If he/she is reluctant to go to school, if their clothes look torn or if they are missing belongings, they may be a victim of a school bully.
- Come to an agreement on how you feel about bullying. It doesn't help for the mother to suggest "turn the other cheek" while the father says "go back and beat him good."
- Tell your child to try and not reward bad behavior. Many bullies take personal items because they're easy to get. If the bully doesn't get what he wants, he might go away.
- Contact the school immediately whenever you suspect bullying. Ask what things will be done to protect your child.
- Get more involved in your child's school by volunteering during lunchtime and recess.
- Suggest a conference with school administrators and the parents of the bully.
- If your child is being harassed to and from school, accompany them or supply other means of transportation.
- Be aware of signs of bullying, such as aggressive behavior. Make sure there is appropriate punishment for violent behavior.
- Try to limit your child's exposure to violent programs on television. Monitor video games for violent content.
- Understand that both boys and girls can be bullies. Girls may use indirect methods, like excluding people from groups, spreading rumors, or setting someone up to look bad. There are still forms of bullying.